Disappointment Builds Character
I have to be honest with you, I have high expectations, but I’m often left disappointed.
Always treat people the same way they treat you, and always help people the same way they help you….
Simple, right ? Not for me. I had high expectations about people, and they would oftentimes leave me disappointed. Hell, I disappointed myself. I believed that everyone was good. That everyone was your friend. How naive was I? Throughout the years, I’ve had people act shady, ungrateful, and inconvenient. I’ve been deceived by people I placed on a pedestal. I was blaming everyone but myself.
At the end of the day, it was all on me. “Expectation is the root of all suffering”. I was suffering for something I let others control. I remember talking to my husband (then boyfriend) about how I expected him to be kind, loving, there for me, but I was none of that for him. I was controlling, annoying, and nagging. How can you expect someone to be there for you when you are not even there for yourself? Everything I asked people to do for me, was not genuinely reciprocated by me.
Relationships shouldn’t be build on expectations, they should consist of a solid foundation built on Compromises. Treat yourself with the same respect that you would want others to treat you with. Do not expect others to go beyond what they see you do. People have no obligation to do anything for you.
At the end of the day, I am so happy to have friends and family that have so much patience dealing with me. Growing up is really hard, but I have a support team that I can depend on.